اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ.
O Allah, I ask You for its (her/his) goodness and the goodness of what You have created it (her/him) with, and I seek refuge in You from its (her/his) evil and the evil of what You have created it (her/him) with.
Allahumma inni as'aluka khayraha wa khayra ma jabaltaha 'alayhi, wa a'udhu bika min sharriha wa sharri ma jabaltaha 'alayhi.
When to Read
This dua is incredibly useful when you find yourself in a relationship that is causing you distress, whether it's a family member, spouse, colleague, or friend. When attempts at reconciliation or understanding fall short, and you feel overwhelmed by the complexities and potential harms, turning to Allah with this supplication is a profound act of reliance. Recite it when you feel a situation escalating, or when you are consistently facing difficulties and hurt from someone. It’s a way to hand over the reins of management to the One who knows best.
How to Read
Ideally, this dua should be recited with sincerity and a heart full of trust in Allah. Face the Qiblah if possible, raise your hands slightly, and speak with a tone of humble supplication. Internalize the meaning: you are acknowledging the inherent nature of the person and seeking Allah's protection from the negative aspects while requesting goodness. Repeat it regularly if the situation persists, especially after your obligatory prayers. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ taught us to seek refuge in Allah from all evil and to ask for the best in all matters.
Virtues & Benefits
This dua is a powerful tool for seeking Allah's protection and guidance in challenging relational dynamics. By reciting it, you are entrusting the management of difficult relationships to Allah, acknowledging His power over all affairs and His perfect knowledge of what is best. It offers immense peace of mind, as you are no longer solely responsible for navigating the complexities. It also serves as a safeguard against being negatively influenced by the person's character or actions, seeking Allah's intervention to prevent harm and bring about positive outcomes. This act of reliance, known as *tawakkul*, is a cornerstone of faith, bringing contentment and alleviating anxiety.
Source & Authentication
Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr (may Allah be pleased with him): The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to recite the following dua: اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ. ‘O Allah, I ask You for its (her/his) goodness and the goodness of what You have created it (her/him) with, and I seek refuge in You from its (her/his) evil and the evil of what You have created it (her/him) with.’ (He would recite this) when marrying a woman. This narration shows the Prophet's ﷺ practice of seeking Allah's help and protection right from the beginning of a relationship, acknowledging that even in seemingly good unions, there can be hidden challenges and potential harms. The phrasing 'what You have created it (her/him) with' indicates a recognition of innate dispositions and character traits.