اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَكْفِيَنِي إِيَّاهَا بِمَا شِئْتَ وَكَيْفَ شِئْتَ. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تُلَيِّنَ لِي قَلْبَهَا، وَتَجْعَلَ بَيْنَنَا وَبَيْنَ قُلُوبِهِمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً.
O Allah, I ask You for its (her/his) goodness and the goodness of what You have naturally inclined her/him to, and I seek refuge in You from its evil and the evil of what You have naturally inclined her/him to. O Allah, I ask You to suffice me against her/him in whatever way You wish and how You wish. O Allah, I ask You to soften her/his heart for me, and to place affection and mercy between us and their hearts.
Allahumma inni as'aluka khayrahā wa khayra mā jabaltahā 'alayhi, wa a'ūdhu bika min sharrrihā wa sharrri mā jabaltahā 'alayhi. Allahumma inni as'aluka an takfiyanī iyyāhā bimā shi'ta wa kayfa shi'ta. Allahumma inni as'aluka an tulayyina lī qalbaha, wa taj'ala baynanā wa bayna qulūbihim mawaddatan wa raḥmah.
When to Read
This dua is profoundly useful when dealing with a difficult spouse, family member, friend, or colleague whose behavior causes distress. Recite it with sincerity and conviction whenever you feel overwhelmed by the challenges in a relationship, seeking Allah's intervention to bring about positive change or to protect you from harm.
How to Read
Begin with sincere intention and complete trust in Allah. Make wudu (ablution) if possible. Raise your hands slightly, a sign of supplication. Recite with humility and concentration, truly believing that Allah is the only one who can mend hearts and guide affairs. You can make this dua at any time, but the late hours of the night and after obligatory prayers are particularly recommended times for dua.
Virtues & Benefits
This powerful dua encapsulates the essence of *tawakkul* (trust in Allah). By entrusting the relationship to Him, we acknowledge His absolute power to change circumstances and soften hearts. It provides immense peace by shifting the burden from our shoulders to Allah's, who is the Best Disposer of affairs. The dua seeks both protection from the negative aspects of a person and the best for the relationship, asking Allah to establish love and mercy, which are cornerstones of any healthy connection according to Islam.
Source & Authentication
‘Amr b. al-‘Āṣ reported: I said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have been afflicted with Khubtha (a fever)." And I mentioned to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) the du'a he (ﷺ) taught him. He (ﷺ) said: "As for us, we have been taught to say: 'O Allah, I seek refuge in Your perfection, from the evil of Your creation.' (Allahumma inni a'udhu bikalimatillahit-tammati min sharri ma khalaq)." 'Amr b. al-'Āṣ said: "So I recited this supplication, and Allah removed from me that affliction, and I gave up mentioning it, and my family mentioned it to me, and I said to them: 'Indeed Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has said: 'A person says: 'I seek refuge in Allah from the evil of His creation.'' So it does not harm him." This hadith is related to seeking refuge from evil. The dua for relationships is derived from the principle of asking Allah for goodness and seeking His protection from evil, as well as asking Him to manage the situation in the best way. The longer version of the dua provided addresses the specific context of relationships, seeking to soften hearts and foster love and mercy.