اللَّهُمَّ فَقِّهْهُ فِي الدِّينِ، وَعَلِّمْهُ التَّأْوِيلَ
O Allah, grant him understanding in religion and teach him its interpretation.
Allahumma faqqihhu fid-deen, wa 'allimhut-ta'weel
When to Read
This powerful dua, originally made by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ for Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) to gain deep understanding of the Quran, can be adapted for our spouses. Before or during a challenging conversation with your spouse where clarity, wisdom, and thoughtful communication are needed, you can make this dua. Picture yourselves sitting down to discuss a sensitive issue, and before you even begin, you turn your heart to Allah, asking Him to grant your spouse the wisdom to speak and listen with understanding.
How to Read
Make this dua with sincerity and focus, directing your supplication towards Allah. You can say it silently in your heart or softly aloud, especially when you are alone. Focus on the intention: asking Allah to bestow upon your spouse the insight to grasp the nuances of the situation, the ability to articulate their thoughts clearly and kindly, and the wisdom to respond in a way that preserves the relationship and seeks truth. It's about asking for divine assistance in fostering a communicative environment built on understanding.
Virtues & Benefits
While this specific dua was for religious understanding, its essence beautifully translates to seeking divine wisdom in all matters, including interpersonal communication. By asking Allah to grant understanding ('fiqh') and the ability to interpret ('ta'weel'), we are essentially asking for the tools needed for effective, wise conversation. This includes the ability to understand the deeper meanings behind words, to discern the right way to respond, and to communicate with clarity and purpose. It fosters an environment where issues are addressed with insight, rather than escalating due to miscommunication, thereby strengthening the marital bond.
Source & Authentication
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet (ﷺ) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'O Allah, teach him the Book (Quran).' [Sunan Ibn Majah 3093, Book 25, Hadith 41]