اللَّهُمَّ اهْدِنِي لِأَحْسَنِ الْأَخْلَاقِ لَا يَهْدِي لِأَحْسَنِهَا إِلَّا أَنْتَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنِّي سَيِّئَهَا لَا يَصْرِفُ عَنِّي سَيِّئَهَا إِلَّا أَنْتَ.
O Allah, guide me to the best of character, for none can guide to the best of it except You. And turn me away from bad character, for none can turn away from bad character except You.
Allahumma ihdini li-ahsani-l-akhlaqi la yahdi li-ahsaniha illa anta, wasrif 'anni sayyi'aha la yasrifu 'anni sayyi'aha illa anta.
When to Read
This dua is profoundly relevant when facing challenges in your personal relationships. Whether it's disagreements with a spouse, misunderstandings with family, friction with friends, or even navigating interactions with colleagues, asking Allah for the best of character is essential. Recite it regularly, especially after your obligatory prayers (Salat), or at any moment you feel tested or desire to improve how you interact with others. It's a constant supplication for developing empathy, patience, and understanding.
How to Read
Recite this dua with sincere intention and heartfelt conviction. Raise your hands as you do when making dua. Focus on the meaning and ask Allah (SWT) with humility. Imagine the qualities of the best character – kindness, patience, forgiveness, wisdom – and ask Him to bestow them upon you, while simultaneously asking Him to shield you from negative traits like anger, harshness, or impatience. Repeat it consistently to ingrain its meaning into your heart and actions.
Virtues & Benefits
Seeking Allah's guidance to the best of character directly impacts the quality of our relationships. Good character is the bedrock of a strong marriage, a harmonious family, and lasting friendships. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 'The best among you are those who have the best character.' (Sahih al-Bukhari 3559). By internalizing this dua, we strive to embody traits that foster love, respect, and mutual understanding, thereby strengthening the bonds between ourselves and others. It also earns Allah's pleasure, as perfecting our character is a key aspect of our Deen.
Source & Authentication
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'O Allah, guide me to the best of characters, for none guides to the best of it but You, and turn me away from bad character, for none turns away from bad character but You.'